Diane Bell [00:00:01]:
Hello, gorgeous soul. I'm Diane Bell, and this is the aim from the Heart Podcast. Your weekly dose of tips, techniques, strategies, and inspiration to help you live a life beyond your wildest dreams. If you're ready to use the art of intentional manifestation to create more freedom, more joy, more abundance, and more bliss in your life, you are in the right place. S grab a cup of tea, pull up a chair, and let's have some fun. I am so glad you're here today.
Diane Bell [00:00:31]:
Let's do this. Hello, gorgeous soul, and welcome to episode five of the Aim From the Heart podcast. I'm so happy that you are here. So I've been receiving so many messages of support and gratitude for the podcast, and I just want to start by saying I'm so grateful that you are here. I'm so grateful that you have chosen to listen to this. I'm so grateful that we are on this journey together. So thank you. Thank you, thank you.
Diane Bell [00:00:53]:
And if you haven't done it already, please do leave a review or rate it. Give it five stars, of course, so that other people can find it. Obviously. I'm just starting this podcast, so all your help and support means the world to me. Now, this week, the conversation that I wanted to have with you is around this topic of wanting more. And is it actually okay to want more when we might feel that we already have so much? Now, this is a really big and deep topic, and the reason that I think it is so important to have this conversation is that many artists, spiritual people and women are deeply conditioned into the thinking that goes something like this it's not good to want more than your share. Wanting more than your share takes away from other people. It is greedy to want more.
Diane Bell [00:01:48]:
I already have so much, and there are people in this world who have so little. So it's unethical or wrong for me to desire to have more. Now, as you heard me say, those thoughts you might have related to at least one of them, you might be like, yeah, I've definitely thought that. I have definitely felt that. I definitely believe that. And I want to explore these, because if we believe these kinds of things, if we believe that it's inherently greedy to want more, that it's inherently wrong or unethical to desire more, I guarantee you, you are going to be blocking the receiving of more. Your subconscious rules the show. 95% of your brain is subconscious.
Diane Bell [00:02:30]:
95%. Okay? And if you're ever wondering what's really creating the results in your life, it's your subconscious beliefs. So if your subconscious programming aligns with the kind of thing that I just described, where you actually do think there's something wrong about wanting more, that you think people who want more are greedy somehow, that they're superficial, that they are taking more than they should have because they're taking away from others by taking more. If that is your kind of deep conditioning beliefs, you're always going to block receiving more. So even if in your conscious mind, you're like, I would like to have more in my life, I would like to have more impact, I would like to make more money, I would like to have more wealth, I would like to have more freedom that comes with wealth. If you're thinking these kinds of things consciously but unconsciously, you're still attuned to the idea that somehow it's bad or wrong to have more. You're always going to block the having more. And that will often lead to some kind of frustration where you're like, why am I not getting more? And sometimes that can lead to a resentment where you start to resent the people who have more because you're like, It's not fair, right? They have more, and I have less, and I'm really trying, but why don't I have more? They are bad people.
Diane Bell [00:03:45]:
So there's a lot to unpack here. And as I say, the number one reason that we want to unpack this is so that you become a clear channel for everything that you truly desire, okay? And that's really what we're here for, so that you can receive whatever it is that you dream of. And that's not to say that we all dream of having Jeff Bezos billions, right? We don't all dream of that. It's like, what do I truly dream of? What would truly feel incredible and amazing and exciting and expansive for me? And it's not the same for all of us. It's very different for all of us. But I want you to be the clear channel to receive everything that you desire. So let's have a look at this. First of all, let's have a look at this idea that it's wrong to want more.
Diane Bell [00:04:30]:
Where did this idea come from? Now, it's funny. I have two little kids, and sometimes we go to the ice cream store. We did this just the other day. And my youngest son, who's six, he orders his ice cream. He eats his ice cream. He finishes his ice cream, and he's like, oh, my gosh, that was so good. Can I have more? And I have to bite my tongue because I'm so conditioned into the way that I was brought up, which is, don't be greedy. You just had an ice cream.
Diane Bell [00:04:53]:
You can't possibly want more. You can't have more. Be grateful for what you already had. Now, most of us were brought up with that kind of conditioning, right? That we had something good and we innocently, as children do, said, Can I have more? I want another ice cream. And our parents, who were well meaning, who loved us, hopefully returned with, don't be greedy, like you just had one. Be grateful for what you had. Now, sometimes that was because they genuinely couldn't afford another one, and sometimes it was because they didn't want you to be greedy, and they thought you were being greedy by asking for another one. And so we get conditioned into this, and as small children, when we receive that message, when we ask for more and are told we can't have more and that it's bad that we even ask for more, we internalize that shame around having more, around wanting more.
Diane Bell [00:05:46]:
And so in our bodies, we really start to learn and internalize this message that it is shameful to want more. It's bad to want more. Good children don't want more. Good children are grateful for what they have. Now let's unpack this. Is it possible that you could actually be for grateful for what you have and at the same time desire more? I believe it is. And this is really the key, I think, to unlocking your next stage of manifestation is when you can start to understand that wanting more doesn't necessarily mean not being satisfied with what you have. And this is a big one, because I think so many people feel like I should just be grateful for what I have.
Diane Bell [00:06:31]:
I shouldn't want more. But what if we can be absolutely grateful for what we have? We can be absolutely satisfied with what we have, we can be absolutely happy with what we have, and at the same time, we can desire more, and that those are not mutually exclusive and they don't cancel each other out anyway. You wanting more doesn't mean you don't appreciate what you already have. It's just like, could I have more? Now? We'll also find in this, though, a little nub, a little gem for us, because I think this gets into the whole thing of desiring more and where it's coming from. If we are desiring more in order to fill a hole, in order to fill a feeling of lack, there's no more that will ever fill that lack. And so if it's like, I'm not happy with what I've got, and therefore I want more, because maybe if I had more, then I would be happy. This is problematic because there's never going to be an amount that's going to be enough. And that's that thing where we get into what the Buddhists call the hungry ghost syndrome.
Diane Bell [00:07:36]:
The hungry ghost, if you've never heard of it's, like this ghost that goes around and he's got this tiny little mouth and this huge belly, and it doesn't matter how much he puts into that tiny mouth, it's never enough. And he's always hungry. And that is his fate and that is his hell. And so we want to avoid the hungry ghost syndrome of always wanting more because we think that getting more is going to make us happy. Because we think that getting more is going to make us feel worthy. Because we think that getting more is going to make us feel full, going to make us feel whole, going to make us feel complete. You are already whole. You're already complete.
Diane Bell [00:08:14]:
There is nothing that can fill that up. If it feels empty now, it's always going to feel empty. To be honest. This is why you have people in this world who have millions of dollars and it's still not enough. It's still not enough. And they still are not happy. And they're still seeking more because they think if they could just get more, that will be the answer. More is not going to make you happy.
Diane Bell [00:08:36]:
So why would you want more if it's not going to make you happy? That becomes the question, right? So let's think about this. If we're already got enough, like one ice cream really was enough. One ice cream was beautiful, one ice cream was delicious. We enjoyed every mouthful of it. Our bellies do feel full. It's good, it's all good. But now we want more because actually we just desire it because it would be fun, because it feels expansive, because it feels delightful. And it's not because we won't be happy if we don't get more.
Diane Bell [00:09:06]:
We just want more because it's expansive. Now we're onto something. Now we get into the vibe of it. And this is true in our lives if we can feel happy with what we have now and we can realize that right now, in this moment, as you're listening to this right now, you have all the conditions for happiness. There's nothing external that you need to change in order to feel happy. You are already happy. You're already whole, you're already complete. And now from this place of your cup already being full, what would feel fun, what would feel exciting, what would make you feel alive, what would light you up, what more would genuinely feel expansive to you? And when we come to manifestation from this angle and we see that wanting more isn't about filling some lack, it's not about actually need.
Diane Bell [00:09:57]:
Your needs are met at this level. This is about something else. This is about purpose, this is about service, this is about giving. This is about abundance. And so wanting more from a place of fullness is not greedy. It's a beautiful thing. And let's unpack that a little bit more. Because I know some of you might be thinking, but wait, if I want more, like if I've already had my share and I have enough, then surely me wanting more is bad because I'm taking away from somebody else.
Diane Bell [00:10:28]:
And many of us will have had that when we were growing up as well. Our parents, for example, saying, how can you want more? Don't you realize there's children in the world who have nothing? And you were made to feel guilty for wanting more. You were made to feel guilty for even having what you had. And you started to attune yourself to the idea that having less would somehow help others. So let's take a look at that. First of all, this view is based on the belief that there is a finite amount of good things in the world. So, for instance, it's like there's a pie of wealth, an apple pie, and once you have one piece, you've taken your piece, somebody else can take their piece. There's only so much pie to go around.
Diane Bell [00:11:12]:
And if you take more, it does literally mean that somebody else gets less pie. And it would indeed be greedy and unfair for you to take more than your share, because other people want pie too, and they should get their pie. But this is a false conception of money and wealth. Imagine, for instance, I said that about the air that we breathe. I said, okay, you know what? You can only breathe very small, shallow breaths right now because you're taking more than your share of oxygen. It's not fair to other people. You would look at me like I was crazy because you'd be like, Diane, there's plenty of oxygen, right? I am not taking so much that it would ever take away from somebody else or say that I said that about, said, you know, you can't love more people because it's just like, it's too much love. There's not going to be enough love to go around.
Diane Bell [00:11:58]:
You're using too much love. You're taking too much love. You're giving too much love is too much. Is not fair. Other people have less love. Now you'd be like, that's ridiculous. The more that I love, the more love there is in this world. So let's think about money and wealth, because many of us have this idea that there's some sort of finite amount of wealth, and that once that's taken up, it's taken up.
Diane Bell [00:12:19]:
So if I take more, then I'm taking more from you. But money and wealth are also created by the value that we create in this world. So if you create more value, you're creating more wealth. That means more wealth for everybody, not just for you. If you're a good person, I know that you do good things with your money. Money flows through you. It's not like you're trying to hoard money for yourself. The more that you have, the more that you have to give, the more that you have to help others with, the more that you have to contribute to causes that feel important to you.
Diane Bell [00:12:58]:
Money will magnify the impact you can have on this world. It magnifies your energy. If you're a bad person, that does indeed mean that you could do a lot of bad things with your money. But if you're a good person, it gives you so much power to do so much more good. You can help so many more people if you have money. Imagine for a moment that you had infinite resources, how many people you could help, what you could do for the causes that you believe in. Imagine all the good that you could create in this world with more wealth. You having more doesn't take away from the world.
Diane Bell [00:13:33]:
You having more increases the goodness in the world. There is no limited amount of pie here. It's infinite. And when we step into that paradigm, when we lose this paradigm that most of us grew up with, that somehow it's a limited amount of wealth and we can start to say, okay, wait a second, there is plenty, right? There is more than enough of all the good things. There's more than enough money. There's more than enough love. There's more than enough opportunities. There's more than enough of everything.
Diane Bell [00:14:00]:
And this is that abundance mindset. And when we start to tap into that, we start to see that me receiving more doesn't mean that I'm taking it from other people, but that I am helping to create a bigger pie, that I'm actually helping to grow the amount of wealth there is in the world. And if I'm a good person, I'm going to help actually with the redistribution of wealth to good people, to good causes, to good things. And that is a positive thing. The more that you have, the more good you can do. That is surely the most selfish, selfless thing you can do. Not selfish, right? And that is the rewiring because most of us have been brought up to believe that to desire more is a selfish thing. It's like, oh my gosh, you're trying to take from everybody else.
Diane Bell [00:14:44]:
Don't be selfish, don't take more. But actually it's the most selfless thing you can do because if you can develop and create more wealth in your life, you will be able to create more in the people around you. You'll be able to help more, you'll be able to give more. So we start to see hopefully that the idea that creating more wealth or receiving more is greedy and bad, is actually just not true. That by receiving more, by being open to receiving more and whatever that means to you at this moment in your life, but by receiving more, you can actually do more good in this world. You can create more of a positive impact. And so actually deciding today that you want to receive more, that you desire to receive more, might be the most spiritual and the most selfless decision you could make in your life. It's not greedy to want more.
Diane Bell [00:15:42]:
It is greedy to want to take away from other people or to stop other people from having more. But when you step into a true paradigm of abundance, you're stepping into a belief system in which you see that there's more than enough for everyone at all times, in all ways. And so your intention is not to take from somebody else and to hoard it for yourself because you're afraid that there's not going to be enough to go around and you want more. But you step into this paradigm in which you realize that there's more than enough for everybody and it's safe for me to desire more. It's safe for me to have more. It's safe for me to create more. It's safe for me to be the steward of more so that I can actually help raise other people up, so that I can help redistribute our wealth on our planet and do good things with it and do more good in this world. So I hope these reframes start to help you.
Diane Bell [00:16:35]:
I know for many years, I personally really struggled with this. I really was so deeply conditioned into the idea that artists and spiritual people don't care about money. I thought that if you cared about money in some way, you were sick in your soul that there was something wrong with you. Because I felt like the things that matter in this life our love, our creativity, freedom, these are the values that I've always held as the highest values in my own life. And to me, it seemed like I don't care about money. That just doesn't fit into the picture. I want to be creative. I want to be free.
Diane Bell [00:17:13]:
I want to live my life in my way, but slowly. And it took me a long time to come to this. I realized that to be fully free, we do need finances, we do need resources, and it's not greedy for you to want more, and it's not bad. Now, if you are ready to receive more and open up your channels of receiving, I have something really exciting happening for you. This month, on October 14, I'm going to kick off a three day live experience called Your Dream Come True, because I believe that you can create your Dream Come true life, and it is through the art of intentional manifestation. So in this three day experience, you're going to be guided through a process to really align yourself with the being that you need to be in order to create incredible results. So this is not going to be just like a class with a lot of theory and a lot of technical thoughts and a lot of things to do. It's going to be an actual energetic activation.
Diane Bell [00:18:16]:
It's going to be such a cool thing. So please join me for it. It's Dianebell.com dream to join. That's D-R-E-A-M dream. So Dianebell.com Dream, and you can sign up and please invite your friends. The more people that we have, the better the energy. It's going to be absolutely phenomenal. I can't wait to do it.
Diane Bell [00:18:38]:
So just to wrap this up, please let me know if you've had any takeaways or breakthroughs from this session. I know that when we rewire our thoughts about receiving more, we open ourselves to receiving more, and that is not a bad thing. I think the thing that's going to heal this world, save this world, transform this world, is more money, more resources, more wealth in the hands of good people. And what that involves is good people doing the work of dismantling the false views they have, that money is evil in some way, that money is bad, that people who want more are bad, and all those kinds of things. Of course, if you want more money so you can hoard it and keep other people down, you're just a bad person. But wanting money itself or wanting more resources is not in and off itself bad. If you're a good person and you have good intentions with it, I think it's your moral duty to actually invite more into your life, to expand yourself, to grow and to see what you are capable of. So once again, if you've had any takeaways or breakthroughs from listening to this today, please share on social media.
Diane Bell [00:19:48]:
I would love to hear from you. You can tag me on Instagram at Aim From the Heart One, or you can find me on Facebook. I'm also aim from the heart or Diane bell. I would love, love, love to hear from you. And again, if you're enjoying this podcast, please leave a review for it. It would mean the world to me. I appreciate you so much for listening to this. Take care, have a beautiful week and I will see you soon.
Diane Bell [00:20:12]:
Diane Bell [00:20:13]:
Thank you so much for listening to this podcast today. If you enjoyed it, could you do me a favor? Please leave it a little review wherever you're listening to it or screenshot it and share it on your social media and tag tag me so I can see it. I would be so appreciative. Thanks so much. I love you and I'll see you soon. Bye.